Wedding planning is made up of lots and lots of parts. But the most important and hardest to lock-in would be the financial aspect!
Money is an incredibly tough subject these days, especially when dealing with such an expensive event such as a wedding.
Money Talk: Wedding Edition
Talk to Your Fiance
Before saying anything to Mom and Dad, sit down with your fiancé and discuss your financial expectations. Be honest with each other about both families’ financial situations; you may find that you have to scale back on your original idea.
Whether you speak to Mom and Dad by phone or in person, you need to be very respectful when asking for money, try a different approach by asking,. “Do you feel comfortable making a contribution to the wedding?’ Then let them suggest what’s best for them.
Give the Details
Once money is offered and accepted, other issues arise. Will your parents assume that they’ll have more control than you’d like? You’ll have to be clear that the buck stops with you and your fiancé. At the same time, be aware that their contribution does mean that they’re involved. Also, make sure they know that you’re asking for a gift, not a loan.
Avoid Hurting Feelings
Remember that there are two sides of the family: yours and his. If your own mom and dad offer to pay for half the wedding, you should run it by your future in-laws before you agree. Bruised feelings may result whenever people are put in a position to pay more or less than other people. This isn’t always about wedding etiquette, make sure you’re comfortable with who pays for what at the wedding. The same goes for divorced parents—discuss asking for money with both separately in order to see what each is comfortable with.
Once you’ve accepted family contributions, create your wedding budget. As a couple, stay on track! It wouldn’t be proper wedding etiquette asking for money from your parents and then go over budget. If you’re planning to save up money yourselves during your engagement, decide how much you can set aside each month and keep a running total as you go; for each couple this will be different. For extra motivation, keep your tally displayed on your fridge. Using a debit card for wedding-related purchases, so that these costs are immediately deducted from your account, making it easier for you to stay on top of what you have left.
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